Wilda is on sabbatical …

Actually, because I am on sabbatical, so is Wilda.  However, not one to not do anything at all, I am on a sabbatical that involves personal work … on myself.  What a concept!

For some time now, I have been talking to women about self-care based on the premise that we are to “love our neighbors as we love ourselves“, and yet how many of us do a good job with the loving ourselves part?   Not many of us, and in fact, not me.  Since I started my own company, I have been spinning my “to do” plates in circles on top of tall poles and now they are falling down, causing my health to suffer.  This is cause for pause.

Without going into all the sordid details, over the next six months my job is to restore my physical health, rebuild my immune system, strengthen my body, renew my spirit, return to the Sacred, find my voice and allow my creative spirit time to dance.  I am writing about my journey in my new blog, www.thebluewoman.wordpress.com.  Please join my pilgrimage as your time allows.  I am open to comments and questions, and invite you to read along.

Namaste.

Melissa

You are AWESOME, YOU ARE AMAZING!

Did you miss me? I missed you! The holidays, and the “crud” knocked me off my blog for a bit, but I’m back. Check out this video and consider yourself VALIDATED and VALUABLE today and EVERYDAY!

Out of the Layoff Ashes

In my last blog, I wrote about Facing the Adversity of a Layoff … and I assigned some homework.  So, how’s it coming?  Are you implementing any of these action items?  If so, which ones?   Where are you getting stuck and how can I help? 

  • First, forward this email to everyone who is out of a job …
  • Exercise and eat right. 
  • If you are drinking a lot, stop or limit your alcohol intake.
  • Go to your nearest Unemployment Office, file and take advantage of EVERYTHING they have to offer.
  • If you need to, seek professional help – start by calling your former employer’s Employee Assistance Program (EAP).
  • Get out of the house at least once a day, take your laptop to an internet café and do your job searches in the presence of people – make eye contact and SMILE at a few of them.  If you don’t have a laptop, borrow one or use community resources.  The point is, make human contact outside your home at least once a day.  Take it from me, doing this really helps.
  • Go to Vista Prints (www.vistaprints.com) and take advantage of their free business card offer.  Fill in the blanks with all of your contact information, and make sure you have a professional email address to include – this is not the time to be greygoose or hotbabe@somewhere.com.
  • Find professional groups that interest you and go to the meetings.  Look in the paper, on Craig’s List, and other sites like www.meetup.com to see what is offered in your area.
  • Get LinkedIn and network with people from your past and any new contacts you make.  Ask those you know to connect you with someone they know that may be able to give you advice or link you with someone who can.  LinkedIn is great for asking questions and getting some fabulous answers — use the tool.  A friend and I did a Lesson on LinkedIn in July of this year.  Listen to it for the cost of your long distance phone charge by calling:  712-432-3903, Access Code:  1834537.  And, read LinkedIn guru, Guy Kawasaki’s archived blog article on “Ten Ways to Use LinkedIn” by going to:  http://blog.linkedin.com/2007/07/25/ten-ways-to-use/.  All of this is free of charge.
  • Check out the Bureau of Labor Statistics website and your local Chamber of Commerce to find out about the business reality in your geographic area … you may need to consider moving to find work in your field.
  • Consider retraining – check with your nearest community college or university for more information.
  • Invest in yourself and your future … find a career coach.   From what I’ve experienced, and am reading, it is taking up to twelve-months for people to find a new job – anything you can do to reduce this time and get out of the unemployment blues rut is worthwhile.

Your life and who you are is a gift to the world around you. 

Do not allow yourself to become invisible.

 

Written by Career Coach: Melissa Lyons, SPHR

Wilda! Women In Leadership Development Association™ Copyright 2008 © All Rights Reserved

www.wildamania.com

Facing the Adversity of Job Loss

I LOVE this video clip and the message it reinforces in my life.  My life is NOT about me, but my life and how I live it is up to me, always.  — Thank you Angus Nelson for this great reminder.

 

As a human resource professional, I have experienced lay-offs from both sides of the fence — delivering the message, doing my best to help others deal with the situation, being in a position with a lot of responsibility, but little power, and finally being laid off myself.  I have a great deal of empathy for those of you who are experiencing job loss, especially in a time when our country is in financial crisis.

 

For those of us who have been there, or are there now, a lot of emotion goes along with the loss of employment.  According to one study, “In terms of overall effect, depression was the most significant stress reaction, followed by mood swings and tenseness.  Women experienced more stress due to the layoff, tended to avoid other people and reported more tenseness in the body, more difficulty falling asleep, and dreams about the layoff.  Single people reported greater depression, tenseness in the body, and a tendency to avoid others.  Older individuals were likely to experience less stress than younger individuals.”₁ 

 

I don’t know about you, but I am “pickin’ up what they’re layin’ down”.  I experienced the depression, tension, soul searching, avoiding people and not being able to fall asleep.  For a while, I even felt as though I had lost my identity – no one was knocking at my door to get my advice on a business issue, no one was patting me on the back for a job well done, mid-day lunches were nonexistent, no socializing in the break room, no paycheck twice a month and no bonus at the end of the year.  And, despite my best efforts to find a job in my field, I didn’t. 

 

My answer was to redesign my career.  I could have gone to work at a local grocery store or in a retail environment, but by God, I didn’t struggle through the impact of a divorce, fulltime undergraduate work, a fulltime job, single parenting and therapy to land in a position where I would be under-employed and under-paid.  I figured I could do that all by myself – so I started my own business.  In fact, I started two … make that three – I’m the first of four kids, what can I say?  I have a need to be an over-achiever.

 

“We have two lives, the one we’re given and the other one we make.” – line from a C&W song.

 

What I have learned over the past few years, is the same thing that Angus Nelson is talking about in this video clip, “it’s not about me.”  Yet, there is another truth to this message.  While my life may not be about me, it is up to me – always.  There is no knight in shining armor to rescue me, and as much as I believe I am loved by friends, family and God, no one is going rain money down on me, or take care of me for the rest of my life.  That’s not their job.  I am the one responsible for everything I need to do to be the person I am meant to be in this world.   This is a universal truth.

 

“God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change.  The courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference.” –  The Serenity Prayer

 

Here’s your homework … consider these your acts of courage:

 

·         Exercise and eat right. 

·         If you are drinking, stop or limit your alcohol intake.

·         Go to your nearest Unemployment Office, file and take advantage of EVERYTHING they have to offer.

·         If you need to, seek professional help – start by calling your former employer’s Employee Assistance Program (EAP).

·         Get out of the house at least once a day, take your laptop to an internet café and do your job searches in the presence of people – make eye contact and SMILE at a few of them.  If you don’t have a laptop, borrow one or use community resources.  The point is, make human contact outside your home at least once a day.  Take it from me, doing this really helps.

·         Go to Vista Prints (www.vistaprints.com) and take advantage of their free business card offer.  Fill in the blanks with all of your contact information, and make sure you have a professional email address to include – this is not the time to be greygoose or hotbabe@somewhere.com.

·         Find professional groups that interest you and go to the meetings.  Look in the paper, on Craig’s List, and other sites like www.meetup.com to see what is offered in your area.

·         Get LinkedIn and network with people from your past and any new contacts you make.  Ask those you know to connect you with someone they know that may be able to give you advice or link you with someone who can.  LinkedIn is great for asking questions and getting some fabulous answers — use the tool.  A friend and I did a Lesson on LinkedIn in July of this year.  Listen to it for the cost of your long distance phone charge by calling:  712-432-3903, Access Code:  1834537.  And, read LinkedIn guru, Guy Kawasaki’s archived blog article on “Ten Ways to Use LinkedIn” by going to:  http://blog.linkedin.com/2007/07/25/ten-ways-to-use/.  All of this is free of charge.

·         Check out the Bureau of Labor Statistics website and your local Chamber of Commerce to find out about the business reality in your geographic area … you may need to consider moving to find work in your field.

·         Consider retraining – check with your nearest community college or university for more information.

·         Invest in yourself and your future … find a career coach.   From what I’ve experienced, and am reading, it is taking up to twelve-months for people to find a new job – anything you can do to reduce this time and get out of the unemployment blues rut is worthwhile.

Your life and who you are is a gift to the world around you.  Please, do not allow yourself to become invisible.

1 – Source:  North Texas Technology Council 2003 Report on Survey of Individuals Affected by Layoff.

 

Written by Career Coach: Melissa Lyons, SPHR

Wilda! Women In Leadership Development Association™ Copyright 2008 © All Rights Reserved

www.wildamania.com

Ready for an Interview?

This week I asked several of my recruiting colleagues from across the country about their first round interview process.  Here is what they had to say and …

Here are the Top Ten first round questions you need to be ready to answer:

 

First, what are the top FIVE to TEN questions you ask every candidate?

 

All recruiters agree that they start out with a phone interview armed with a round of elimination questions, or as Bo Burch’s group, Human Capital Solutions affectionately terms them “knock out questions”.  

 

1.   Are you still in the market for a new job?  If you are not, do you have anyone with a similar background you would recommend?  This may be kind of a no-brainer, because first round interview questions are used to rule-in or rule-out candidates –but be ready for this question.  You never know when you may be in the market for a new position, especially in our current economic climate, and building strong relationships with recruiters (a.k.a. headhunters) is always a good idea.  Never allow yourself to become invisible. 

 

2.  What are your career goals and what you are honestly looking for in a position within a new organization?  This question is designed to help the recruiter understand what you value in a new employer.  As you prepare for your job search, think about how you would answer this and other questions.  What size organization do you thrive in, do you like a “family” feel, are you numbers driven, do you like a lot of energy, is the company’s involvement in the community important to you?  Know what you want, and what you have to offer.  A mismatch will only lead to your own disengagement and a new employer who is disappointed with their new hire.

 

3.    Walk me through your job history.  Gloria Blue comments, that asking the questions this way feels so much nicer to her than … “so tell me why you left your last job”…  

 

Recruiters are looking for answers that pertain to gaps in employment history as well as a record of longevity with past employers.  New companies are looking for people who are engaged. By definition, employee engagement is intellectual and emotional commitment to an organization, which is also measured by three primary behaviors:

     Saying:  The employee consistently speaks positively about the organization to co-workers and refers potential employees and customers.

    Staying:  The employee has an intense desire to be a member of the organization, despite opportunities to work elsewhere.

     Striving:  The employee exerts extra effort and exhibits behaviors that contribute to business success.

Source: SHRM Whitepapers, Employee Engagement July 2005 written by, Nancy R. Lockwood, SPHR, GPHR and Employee Engagement Higher at Double-Digit Growth Companies (2004), www.hewitt.com.

 

4.    What are you salary expectations?  What is your bottom line?  Depending on the job, are you willing to negotiate?   Let’s face it, everyone has financial obligations, and no matter what job an individual is applying for, all have salary expectations they are not willing to go below.  Make sure this issue is discussed effectively when it is asked – no need to waste time on an interview process when compensation is unacceptable to either party.  Tip to candidates:  be sure to investigate business reality in your geographic location to make sure your expectations are in line with what jobs pay in the vicinity. I know countless people who have relocated without due diligence in this area … much to their disappointment.  AND, if you are a dual income family, keep an eye open for what kind of opportunities are available for your trailing spouse or partner.

 

5.   What kind of professional qualities do you think you have that would make you competent for the position as described?   “It is amazing how many people are unrealistic about what they want to do, and their ability to do it.” Says Vangie Grave of The Oasis Group – which makes Gloria Blue’s comment to the next question no surprise.

 

6.   What are or were your day to day responsibilities in your current or last position(s) and what do or did they entail?   Gloria comments that this line of questioning makes the potential candidate walk you through what they’ve done and how they’ve contributed.  “It’s pretty interesting what  kind of responses you get, I’ve actually had people tell me they’ve made up some of the content on their resumes.”   Oooh … “knocked-out”, definitely, “knocked-out”.

 

7.   If we make a commitment to you would you be able to make a commitment to us for at least one year in this role?  Non-commitment to a question like this can be a deal killer.  With the cost of turnover running companies between 100% and 400% of a candidates first years’ salary (depending upon job level), employers are more and more concerned about job dedication and loyalty.

 

8.   Are you able to provide professional references from your last 3 positions?   If a candidate can’t provide these, it is a major red flag by sending a message that your co-workers and past managers don’t have positive things to say about your past performance.  Make sure you have solid references, and know what they plan to say when they are called.

 

9.   Is the candidate interested in relocating, and if so, is there willingness to do it at their own expense?   According to long-time recruiter Vangie Graves, companies aren’t forking over big relocation packages any longer, and if they do, there is typically a pay-back clause in the offer letter if employment separation occurs within a certain time period. 

 

10. Also, while not an actual question, each recruiter is keeping an ear open for communication skills and your likability factor – pay attention to things like “ums”, long pauses and your level of enthusiasm.

 

For recruiters at Human Capital Solutions, if a candidate isn’t “knocked out” of the interview process, a full interview is set up with an Account Executive.  This round of questions focuses on behavioral interviewing where inquiries are made into the candidates past responses to challenges, opportunities and other business situations.  Sample behavioral questions include responses about how specific problems were solved, ideas were brought to fruition, and the kinds of actions a candidate took in the past to ensure business success, followed with tangible financial results that benefited the organization.  Corporate recruiters will either set up a face-to-face interview, or continue with a few behavioral and/or tactical skills related questions.  All this is done before moving forward with management and team member interviews. 

When it comes to professional advancement, knowing your story (as well as you know your favorite joke) is one of the BEST things you can do for yourself.

 

In my blog article about “Top Ten Interview Errors and How to Avoid Them”, I talked about knowing your challenges, actions and results.  Recruiters, whether they are headhunters who are hired by corporations to find top talent, or corporate recruiters who work within big organizations, are  looking for what kind of contributions you have made – with the theory that past performance is indicative of what you will accomplish  in the future. 

 

As a tip to those of you who are transitioning into a different career altogether, know how what you have done in the past, translates into what you can do in a new environment.  Have experience- based examples ready to discuss including how those experiences relate in the new career path; prepare yourself by reading articles, participating in mastermind groups, other professional groups and volunteer activities in your new “field of dreams”.

 

When it comes to questions about problems encountered with co-workers, especially when that person is someone to whom an employee reports, what are recruiters looking for … and not looking for in a response?

 

Everyone had similar answers to this question, but Vangie Graves puts it this way, “I am looking for the truth, no matter what the situation was, and I also want to know how they dealt with that situation. This helps me know what type of environment they will work well in and what is not for them. It also helps me know how they respond to stress or adversity. “   Bo Burch adds that this is where he looks for a candidates’ diversity factor.  In this context, “diversity” is a different opinion or idea, an area that is often the cause of employee conflict. Long-time recruiter, Gloria Blue looks for hostility in the candidates’ response.  Hostility, resentment or disgust will make for a shorter interview if they “go off” on the subject.  “On the other hand,” she continues, “if the candidate is sincere and states a genuine lack of leadership and frustration with honest and thorough answers via their responses I will continue forward and feel that there might be true issues within the organization that they came from.”

 

A tip for all candidates, learn to be committed to effectiveness rather than the desire to be “right”.  Being known as a collaborator is definitely an attribute of an “A Player”.

 

GET READY.  GET SET.  GET INTERVIEWED.

 

Get out a piece of paper, or your computer.

Write down and answer all these questions.

Familiarize yourself with your responses.

Have a friend or family member work through a mock interview process with you, using these questions.

Network … the unpublished job market is huge!

Check out Wilda’s upcoming Group Coaching teleconferences on our calendar at www.wildamania.com.

 

Written by: Melissa Lyons, SPHR

Wilda! Women In Leadership Development Association™ Copyright 2008 © All Rights Reserved

www.wildamania.com

Want to be an “A” Player? Here are Attributes worth Consideration …

Think of yourself as a candy bar … on the outside, you may have dynamite packaging, but if you don’t taste good, you may get a bite, but you won’t make it to market.  When it comes to personal branding, who you are on the inside can make or break the deal. 

 

In reading this information, allow yourself to be introspective by taking an honest inventory of your internal attributes, and then decide where your weak areas lie and how you can remake your personal brand in order to achieve your personal best. –  If you’re a Wilda! member with some issues in this area, give me a call and let’s talk things through.

 

Brad Smart, Ph.D. and author of Top Grading, writes, “Candidates with the most impressive strengths get the job only if they do not have major flaws.”  On pages 218 – 219 of his book, he states that he believes there are twelve common failings related to needed competencies.  Rather than indicating the shortcomings in these areas, I have chosen to indicate my beliefs about requirements to achieve and maintain A Player status.

 

Resourcefulness – know the business and industry you are in and create opportunities for the organization and yourself; delegate wisely by building rapport rather than destroying it.

Selecting – know how to choose A Players and surround yourself with them; know how to mentor others who may be potential A Players, and allow yourself to be mentored.  Thinking you have to know it all gets you no where fast.  Network.  Build your connections through LinkedIn, Namz and other professional groups.  Ask questions, seek answers.  As Tim Sanders writes, Love is the Killer App, His message?  Simply, have information to share, and share it!

A former co-worker of mine, Cherie, is a perfect example of this message.  In a company where lay-offs came nearly every thirty-days, she was never on the list.  Why?  Cherie took the time to know everything she could about the company.  From phones, to keys, to pitching in with Client Services, to building relationships with clients, co-workers, vendors and beyond — she was, and still is the A to Z go-to person at her company.  She made herself indispensable, not by holding onto everything she knew, but by sharing herself in every way possible.

Passion – maintain your drive and if you find you are going through the motions, proactively make corrections, even if this means a career change.  Stay on top of your industry by participating on boards or being an active member of a professional organization.  Read business books when you’re on a plan traveling on business.  Share your insights, and what you’ve been reading or listening to.  Actively participate in your life and your profession. 

Integrity – be honest, trustworthy, and confidential — and work within the framework of business law.  Remember what your mother told you, “if you can’t say something nice (about someone) don’t say anything at all.”  There is no room for gossip as an A Player.

Ambition – serve the Company, your co-workers and clients.  AND, commit yourself to being effective rather than being right.  Being someone who listens and thinks through the ideas of others verses a quick response can yield great dividends. 

Political Savvy – play fair in the workplace.  Know how to navigate the negative, effectively resolve conflict without taking sides, know your values and let them guide you always.  Call your coach (me) to go through a values exercise, and familiarize yourself with John Wooden, former star-coach of the UCLA Bruins and a true “A” Player.

Adaptability – navigate career promotions carefully by selecting positions you have the right amount of knowledge, skill and experience to perform.  Be challenged, but never get yourself so far in over your head that you set yourself up for failure.

Team Builder – empower others to excel, create an atmosphere of growth and appreciation.  In my experience, individual contributors and managers who hold onto the glory lose the respect of their team members and their staff.  Eventually, this kind of behavior catches up to the individual and believe me, they don’t land on their feet.

Team Player – be the above and beyond person, a resource.  Freely give information and invite participation, welcome the opinions and ideas of others and integrate them.

Track Record – take ownership of projects, be known for meeting deadlines and obligations, even if it means working nights and weekends to do what you committed to do; work efficiently and pay attention to your workload  Do not over commit.  Let your yes mean yes, your no mean no, and, your maybe mean no too.

Intelligence – know the level of your ability to serve, and commit to being a life-long learner; read, be involved in think tanks, master-mind groups, listen to others, and again, allow yourself to be mentored.

Likeability – be a person of integrity, treat others with genuine respect, care and kindness, and make sure your values match the values of the organization for which you work.

To your success!

 

Melissa

Top Ten Interview Errors and How to Avoid them …

10.       Unfocused

9.         Unclear

8.         Underestimating

7.         Uninterested

6.         Unkind

5.         Unemotional

4.         Untrue

3.         Undesirable Image

2.         Unprepared

1.         Untimely

10.            Unfocused

Walking into an interview without the proper focus puts you in the danger zone.  I will never forget interviewing a highly recommended, but completely unfocused individual for an Executive Administrative position that paid $60k.  She was out of work, and after five minutes, she was out the door.

“Celia” came to the interview presentably dressed, but completely uninterested in the HR part of the interview.  She shook my hand briefly, made some eye contact, put her shoulder strapped handbag on the floor next to her and the interview began.  As we discussed her work history, what she was looking for in a new company, culture fit, past challenges and opportunities, “Celia” wrapped and unwrapped the shoulder strap of her handbag around her foot … getting it stuck several times and having to pause to untangle herself.  Unbelievable?  Not really.

Many times candidates fail to keep in mind is that the first impression they give will be the one that keeps them walking though the doors to the inner chambers of the company.   From the receptionist to the Human Resource professional, how you treat people the first time you meet them is going to be indicative of how you will treat co-workers in the future.  Needless to say, “Celia” did not get the chance to waste the time of our President.  A few things to keep in mind during an interview:

·         Turn off your cell phone and Blackberry.

·         Headsets, Bluetooth’s and IPods stay at home or in your car.

·         Be well rested and on top of your game – visualization, mediation, prayer or self-talk, can work wonders.

·         Eat enough to keep you energized, clear headed, and not thinking about how hungry you are; at the same time, don’t be so full that you end up embarrassing yourself.

·         If possible, steer clear of interviews that take place at a restaurant.  If you have to, be sure you have your manners and personal etiquette down pat.  – They have classes that address business meetings that take place during a meal, if needed, it is a wise investment.

·         Don’t schedule interviews too close to other appointments.  And, if you’re best in the morning, find out if there’s time to meet in the morning — ditto for the afternoon.  Always plan to be at the top of your game.

9.             Unclear

Lots of candidates get in trouble here because they don’t know how to tell their story.   The information on their resume reads more like a job description, listing duties and responsibilities rather than telling what contributions were made on the job.  So, first, know your story and practice it.   List three to five key contributions you made at each organization and be able to discuss challenges and how you overcame them – especially when dealing with behavioral issues. 

Remember, past performance is indicative of future performance.  A few things to keep in mind:

·         Pace yourself; don’t talk too fast or too slow.

·         Articulate your words carefully; NO mumbling.

·         Resist using clichés and hip jargon – we have lots of generations in today’s workplace, and not everyone is going to “pick up what you’re layin’ down”.

·         Stay on track; resist side conversations and tangents.

·         Maintain good eye contact.

8.              Underestimating … yourself and the person interviewing you

I’ve said this before, and I will say it again, one of the essential ways to have a good interview is for candidates to know themselves.  If you don’t know yourself, the person interviewing you will draw their own conclusions – if you want the job, having someone else fill in your blanks will not get you on their payroll. 

·         Research the company as much as possible and know how your education, past experiences skills, abilities and background translate into how you can contribute.

·         Know the importance of timing when you are asked a question.  Too much time between responses leaves the impression that you don’t know how to answer, or that you don’t have an answer to offer.  And, eliminate (or at least keep to a minimum) your “ums”, “you knows” and other filler words.

·         Show your interest in the work by coming prepared to ask questions about the company – its culture, history, and the untold story … like different boards or community involvement initiatives it has in place.

·         Show interest in the person interviewing you; ask them how long they’ve been with the company and what they like best about working there.

·         Listen carefully and give accurate answers.  NEVER embellish your knowledge, skills, abilities or background.  And, know that your resume is a marketing tool and your application is a legal document which enables the potential employer to investigate and verify your background for accuracy. 

·         When you come to an interview, the company wants to know how you’re going to fit into their culture and what you have to offer … so, while there is a need to be honest and let yourself shine through, leaving your personal agenda (to change a workplace that may not need, or want, to change) at home is a good idea.   

Recently, a friend and I discussed her interview with a major hotel chain.  One of the questions she was asked was what made her the right candidate for the job.  Her response?  “I don’t know if I am.”  She then elaborated on the fact that because she knew other candidates with her same qualifications had applied for the position; she knew there were plenty of applicants with the knowledge, skills and abilities the hotel was looking for.  Yet, only they knew who embodied the right personality and cultural fit for their organization.  “Let’s face it,” she told them, “if I’m not the right personality type for your organization, you’re not going to like me, and I’m not going to like working here.  No one wants that.”  — She got the job.

7.              Uninterested

PLEASE, if you aren’t interested in the company or the job, what they stand for, what they make, who they serve, or the services they provide do not apply! 

6.              Unkind

Speaking unkindly about former employers, co-workers or working conditions, roommates, the industry you came from, etc. will not get you hired.   If you were unhappy at your former job or with a former boss, stick to answers that focus on what you are looking for with a new employer, not what you didn’t have.  For example, maybe you have:

·         The need for a new challenge; or

·         The opportunity to grow or utilize a newly acquired skill set; or

·         The desire to participate in a company that is very involved in the community, etc. 

·         Most of all, keep the interview about your skills and yourself.

5.              Unemotional

While over-enthusiastic and over-agreeable can be exhausting for the person talking with you, interviewing someone who is unemotional is worse.  Top on my list are those interviewees who:

·         Don’t maintain good eye contact;

·         Fail to keep up with good body language – these are the ones who start slouching, or those who extend their arms across the back of a chair (indicating they are too relaxed to impress me).  And then there are the leg-spreaders, wigglers, tappers and fidgeters – all who exude boredom for the process.

·         Cannot give you a firm handshake;

·         Lack common courtesies, like greeting, shaking hands, etc.

·         And, last of all, those who have no enthusiasm or passion for what they know or want to accomplish.

4.              Untrue

If you are changing jobs and your employment history is questionable, have believable, answers that focus on personal responsibility to address all gaps, and longevity issues ready for your interviewer.  Reasons that resonate with a potential employer are things like:

·         Relocation;

·         Working seasonally while in college;

·         Being a trailing spouse looking for a good fit and working for a temp agency to keep busy until finding something in an appropriate or interesting field; or perhaps,

·         Taking time off to care for an elderly or ailing family member.

Whatever you do, be honest. 

TIP:  Being honest includes being honest with yourself.  If you are a job-hopper, maybe its time to take a look at what changes YOU need to make … like hiring a career coach J

Listen carefully and give accurate answers.  NEVER embellish your knowledge, skills, abilities or background.  And know that your resume is a marketing tool and your application is a legal document which enables the potential employer to investigate, verify your background, and check your references. 

3.              Undesirable Image

For more on this, read our Professional Branding article (Oct. 2008), and remember you need to be sharply dressed, from head to toe.  Keep your hair in a current, suitable style, clean your nails, shine your shoes, wear appropriate hose or socks, hide your tattoos and piercings, make sure your oral and body hygiene is impeccable, and make sure whatever you are wearing fits, matches and has an appropriate neckline.  Rule of thumb:  Always dress one level up from what the normal dress code is for the place you are interviewing.

2.              Unprepared

Unprepared is synonymous with unqualified.

Statistics show that the cost to fill an open job position is between 100% and 400% of an open positions’ first year’s salary, depending on job level.  Translated, this means that when an organization bases a decision to interview you from the way you have represented yourself in writing, and possibly during a phone interview, means that they are willing to invest even more in you by conducting a face to face interview.   This is your chance to make it worth their time and money by proving you have a value proposition that will benefit them.

To prepare yourself, research the company online via their website, online search engines, LinkedIn and other relationship marketing tools.  Look in local newspapers for new and archived articles, and check out industry publications.  Make it your business to educate yourself about the organization.

Know what the position requires.  Networking is a great way to find out if you have a common acquaintance at target organization; use your connections to find out what you need to know in order to be a top contender for any job you want.

Once again, know your story.  Practice it, do mock interviews with your friends, check out Wilda’s Blog for common questions asked during an interview, and know how you will answer them.  Know your business passions and be able articulate them clearly and concisely.  Know the challenges you have faced, what you have done to overcome them, and what results you have experienced.

1.                             Untimely

If your timing is off, so are you … not being on time to an interview probably the WORST mistake you can make.  To keep this from happening:

·         Get plenty of rest the night before.

·         Make sure your alarm clock is set and rings.

·         Do not procrastinate; thinking you can do just one more thing before you get ready.  Set your schedule and stick to it.

·         Call the day before to confirm the time.

·         Ask if the recruiter would make a list of names and titles of those involved in the interview available to you so you can send a thank you note.

·         Ask if you need to be there early to complete an application.   TIP:   I always recommend that candidates find a generic application to fill out and copy so they don’t have to reinvent the wheel every time and employer asks for this information.  And, have something brief and concise to fill in the “duties and responsibilities” area.  Your resume can do the rest. 

·         If you are going to be late, and it is something out of your control like an accident, or flat tire, call and reschedule.   But, no matter what … call.

Inflammatory Breast Cancer (IBC)

Did you know you can have breast cancer without having a lump?  

While coaching women on health issues isn’t my forte, I am passionate about women’s health issues and feel obligated to provide as much information as I can, whenever I can and beating women’s’ cancers is on the top of my list.  This type is new to me, and my guess is that it is new to you too.  

While IBC is rare, it is very progressive — one reported incident sites that the IBC grew to “9×8×5cm in only three weeks”*.  Not only that, IBC symptoms are so different from typical breast cancer symptoms that many times the disease goes misdiagnosed or undetected altogether.  In fact, initial symptoms can mimic bug-bites.  Site references from the Mayo Clinic and the IBC Research Organization warn women to watch for the following aggressive symptoms, and recommend seeking medical attention immediately:

  • Swelling, usually sudden, sometimes a cup size in a few days
  • Itching
  • Pink, red, or dark colored area (called erythema) sometimes with texture similar to the skin of an orange 
  • Ridges and thickened areas of the skin
  • Nipple retraction (inverted nipple)
  • Nipple discharge, may or may not be bloody
  • Breast is warm to the touch
  • Breast pain (from a constant ache to stabbing pains)
  • Change in color and texture of the areola

From what I’m reading,  inflammatory breast cancer typically grows in “nests or sheets”, rather than the lumps we’ve all been told check for.  When it comes to IBC it is the density of the breast tissue that needs to be compared to prior mammograms we need to use caution when receiving the results of our annual mammogram. 

*Taken from www.ibcresearch.org/symptoms. Please Google inflammatory breast cancer for more information on the subject — and please, inform others about this fast growing disease.

October is Breast Cancer Awareness Month.  Would you like to donate to the cause?  Wilda! continues to receive donations for their Passionately Pink for the Cure Campaign at www.passionatelypink.org.  Indicate Melissa Lyons (our Founder) and Wilda to donate directly to Komen — help us beat this disease that takes the lives of over 40,000 women each year.

She by Kobi Yamada

Chinese Symbol for Change

Change

“She turned her cant’s into cans, and her dreams into plans.  

 

 

 

 

 

 Celebrate her goals.”

Kobi Yamada

 

Building Your Professional Brand

I’ve been a Human Resource professional for nearly twenty years, and in all of those years I have had my hands in the recruitment and retention process, including having a say in who stays, who goes and who gets promoted.   I can tell you, if you want to climb the ladder, getting to the top has to do with effectively branding yourself.

What is a personal brand?  It is your trademark – your knowledge, skills and abilities, paired with your appearance and behavior.  If you think of yourself as a candy bar, your wrapper needs to be appealing, and what is inside has to be even better!  You are your own product and everything about you needs to scream excellence, even to the point of being extraordinary – especially when you are working within a large organization with room for lots of superstars.

Since it is that first impression that gets you in the door, we will start from the outside and work our way in. 

How you wrap yourself does make a difference; and, believe me this is where business casual can clearly become a career casualty.  While this has nothing to do with dressing to the nines, or purchasing an expensive wardrobe, staying in the loop from head-to-toe when it comes to color, design, excellent fit and style is going to make a difference if you want to shine.  Our suggestions:

  1. Dress as though you already have the promotion you would like to earn.  Look at who has the job that you would like to grow into and fashion yourself accordingly; not like a mirror image, but certainly a reflection of the incumbent’s success.
  2. When you are at work, it really is about business, so wear business attire.  Wear good fitting slacks, skirts or dresses, jackets or sweaters sets for meetings, tops with appropriate necklines, smart accessories, and clean shoes.  In addition, utilize colors that work with your skin tone and if you don’t match color well, get someone to help you. 
  3. Make up or not, be well groomed to your fingernails, and smell fresh, not doused in fragrance. 
  4. Long, short or in middle, keep your hairstyle up to date.  It is tough for management to select someone they want leading a business team, or an important project, whose appearance is out dated.
  5. If you want to be thought of as leadership material, rethink showing up to the office wearing beach attire, or what you would put on to clean the garage – even if it is casual Friday. 
  6. Always remember your audience.  Excellence in business has to do with everything all the time, including My Space, Face book and a night out with co-workers, including your boss.  What happens in Vegas may stay in Vegas, but the same thing does not apply when you are in a room full of workplace witnesses.   

When it comes to looking on the inside, allow yourself to be introspective by taking an honest inventory of your internal attributes, and then decide where your weak areas lie and how you can remake your personal brand in these areas.

Brad Smart, Ph.D. and author of Top Grading, writes, “Candidates with the most impressive strengths get the job only if they do not have major flaws.”  On pages 218 – 219 of his book, he states that he believes there are twelve common failings related to needed competencies.  Rather than indicating the shortcomings in these areas, I have chosen to indicate my beliefs about requirements to achieve and maintain A Player status.

 The Inside:  Attributes of an A Player

  1. Resourcefulness – know the business and industry you are in and create opportunities for the organization; delegate wisely by building rapport rather than destroying it.
  2. Selecting – know how to choose A Players and surround yourself with them; know how to mentor others who may be potential A Players.
  3. Passion – maintain your drive and if you find you are going through the motions, proactively make corrections, even if this means a career change.
  4. Integrity – be honest, trustworthy, and confidential and work within the framework of business law.  Remember what your mother told you, “if you can’t say something nice (about someone) don’t say anything at all.”  There is no room for gossip as an A Player.
  5. Ambition – serve the company and commit yourself to being effective rather than being right.
  6. Political Savvy – play fair in the workplace.
  7. Adaptability – navigate career promotions carefully by selecting positions you have the right amount of knowledge, skill and experience to perform.
  8. Team Builder – empower others to excel, create an atmosphere of growth and appreciation.
  9. Team Player – be the above and beyond person, a resource.  Freely give information and invite participation, welcome the opinions and ideas of others and integrate them.
  10. Track Record – take ownership of projects, be known for meeting deadlines and obligations, even if it means working nights and weekends to do what you committed to do; work efficiently and play attention to your workload.
  11. Intelligence – know the level of your ability to serve and commit to being a life-long learner; read, be involved in think tanks, listen to others, allow yourself to be mentored.
  12. Likeability – be a person of integrity, treat others with genuine respect, care and kindness, and make sure your values match the values of the organization for which you work.

 And remember, inside out, you are a package deal. 

To your success,

Melissa Lyons, SPHR

 Copyright © 2008 Wilda! ™ Women In Leadership Development Association

www.wildamania.com

The Purina Diet

Yesterday I was at my local Wal-Mart buying a large bag of Purina dog chow for my loyal pet, Sheriff, the Wonder Dog and was in the checkout line when a woman behind me asked if I had a dog.

            

What did she think I had, an elephant? So since I’m retired and have little to do, on impulse I told her that no, I didn’t have a dog, I was starting the Purina Diet again. I added that I probably shouldn’t, because I ended up in the hospital last time, but that I’d lost 50 pounds before I awakened in an intensive care ward with tubes coming out of most of my orifices and IVs in both arms.

             

I told her that it was essentially a perfect diet and that the way that it works is to load your pants pockets with Purina nuggets and simply eat one or two every time you feel hungry. The food is nutritionally complete so it works well and I was going to try it again. (I have to mention here that practically everyone in line was now enthralled with my story.)

             

Horrified, she asked if I ended up in intensive care because the dog food poisoned me. I told her no, I stepped off a curb to sniff an Irish Setter’s butt and a car hit us both.

             

I thought the guy behind her was going to have a heart attack he was laughing so hard.

            

Wal-Mart won’t let me shop there anymore.

             

Better watch what you ask retired people. They have all the time in the world to think of crazy things to say.

 

Author Unknown

Contributed by my sister – Jennifer Baker            

Bamboo

Bamboo

Once upon a time, in the heart of the Western Kingdom, lay a beautiful garden. And there, in the cool of the day, the Master of the garden was wont to walk. Of all the denizens of the garden, the most beautiful and most beloved was gracious and noble bamboo. Year after year, bamboo grew yet more noble and gracious, conscious of his Master’s love and watchful delight, but modest and gentle withal. And often when the wind came to revel in the garden, Bamboo would cast aside his grave stateliness, to dance and play right merrily, tossing and swaying and leaping and bowing in joyous abandon, leading the Great Dance of the garden, which most delighted the Master’s heart.

Now, once upon a day, the Master himself drew near to contemplate his Bamboo with eyes of curious expectancy. And Bamboo, in a passion of adoration, bowed his great head to the ground in loving greeting.

The Master spoke: “Bamboo, Bamboo, I would use you.”

Bamboo flung his head to the sky in utter delight. The day of days had come, the day for which he had been made, the day to which he had been growing hour by hour, the day in which he would find his completion and his destiny.

His voice came low: “Master, I’m ready. Use me as Thou wilt.”

“Bamboo,” – The Master’s voice was grave — “I would have to take you and cut you down!”

A trembling of great horror shook Bamboo…”Cut …me… down? Me…who thou, Master, has made the most beautiful in all thy Garden…cut me down! Ah, not that. Not that. Use me for the joy, use me for the glory, oh master, but cut me not down!”

Beloved Bamboo,”—The Master’s voice grew graver still—“If I cut you not down, I cannot use you.”

The garden grew still. Wind held his breath. Bamboo slowly bent his proud and glorious head. There was a whisper:

“Master, if thou cannot use me other than to cut me down, then do thy will and cut”.

“Bamboo, beloved Bamboo, I would cut your leaves and branches from you also”.

“Master, spare me. Cut me down and lay my beauty in the dust; but would thou also have to take from me, my leaves and branches too?”

“Bamboo, if I cut them not away, I cannot use you.”

The Sun hid his face. A listening butterfly glided fearfully away. And Bamboo shivered in terrible expectancy, whispering low: “Master, cut away”

“Bamboo, Bamboo, I would yet… split you in two and cut out your heart, for if I cut not so, I cannot use you.”

Then Bamboo bowed to the ground: “Master, Master… then cut and split.”

So did the Master of the garden took Bamboo…
and cut him down…
and hacked off his branches…
and stripped off his leaves…
and split him in two…
and cut out his heart.

And lifting him gently, carried him to where there was a spring of fresh sparkling water in the midst of his dry fields. Then putting one end of the broken Bamboo in the spring and the other end into the water channel in His field, the Master laid down gently his beloved Bamboo… And the spring sang welcome, and the clear sparkling waters raced joyously down the channel of bamboo’s torn body into the waiting fields. Then the rice was planted, and the days went by, and the shoots grew and the harvest came.

In that day Bamboo, once so glorious in his stately beauty, was yet more glorious in his brokenness and humility. For in his beauty he was life abundant, but in his brokenness he became a channel of abundant life to his Master’s world.

Author Unknown

Contributed by Mark Curley, Rooster@zzn.catholic-pages.com

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